Second... well, it's not really very spoilery but I'll put it under a warning space just to be extra-super careful:
So one thing I don't get... the Joining's supposed to be uber-super-secret, right? And from what I understand, your Zubeneschamali* isn't a Warder at all. And yet he's the one that performs the Joining ceremony? Explain this to me?
*Seneschal, in spellcheck-ese.